Fri 6 Jul 2012
Frank Ocean’s Circle of Trust: Momdukes, His Co-Writer, Dream Hampton and more
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(I Shot This Photo During Frank’s First Coachella Set)
Frank Ocean was definitely the most talked about artist this week in the music world. His extremely brave and courageous “coming out of the closet” was the Tumblr post read around the world. Frank’s touching letter had members of both sexes feeling all emo and gushy inside (so I was told, haha). Everyone from Russell Simmons to Dream Hampton have publicly shown their support to Mr. Ocean. Most recently, Complex’s Brad Wete spoke to Frank’s musical counterpart, Maylay, who serves as his co-writer and producer. Together, they worked closely on the Channel Orange project. While he pretty much declined to speak in detail on Franky’s decision, Maylay admits it was a surprise to even his inner circle.
“I don’t think anyone during any given point during the creative process knew what was happening, because the thing that’s so brilliant about what Frank does is, like on “Forrest Gump,” when he’s singing maybe from a female perspective or whatever, it’s a story, it’s a world that he created.” –Malay, Frank’s co-writer and producer.
Frank’s mother also tweeted her support:
“My son is brave and honest and I am very proud of him. I wish more people in the world could be brave enough to be who they really are. Thank you to all who have shown love and support. My son is the most incredible human I know. Honest, true and loving. We appreciate you!” –@Katonya
This whole situation reminds me of one of my homeboys from college, Norman, who was an aspiring singer at the time. When I first moved to NYC for school, they threw all the freshmen into a tiny coed dorm in the Financial District of Manhattan. As you know, the city is open as hell and home to many, many homosexual dudes. A lot of whom are undercover for various reasons. At the time, for me, interacting with gay guys was mad foreign, and I wasn’t even sure If I was comfortable with it. It wasn’t that I really had anything against homosexuality but growing up in a small town in Jersey, I was just limited in being around openly gay people. In fact, I’m not going to lie and act like my group of HS friends, who were mostly jocks and stoners, didn’t throw around the word f*g on the regular. We used it in place of the word, “b*tch” or “p*ssy,” when trying to slander another dude. It wasn’t until I got to know Norman after a few weeks of living on the same floor and going to the bar together with the rest of our floor-mates that I realized how cool he was. I think we bonded more than the other kids because we were both from neighboring towns in NJ, loved hip-hop and were Asian (well, he’s half Japanese and Black). He was also afraid to come out to his parents and close friends, for fear of being judged and outcast-ed. I totally got it. His mother was a conservative Japanese immigrant and father a strong militant Black man, who still talked about his days in the Navy as if they happened days ago.
On Tuesdays, we had remedial math together (bad Asians), and after we would always hit the cafeteria for chicken fingers and homemade honey bbq sauce, then go back to my room for a blunt session (yea, I was the pusha back then so our stash was unlimited) and to yap about our daily problems as two new kids in a big city. He mostly bitched about how hard it was for him to be an undercover gay man and how much he envied my life. I always came back with ‘but dog you can f*ckin sing better than John Legend and all the chicks fuck with you! People just hit me for trees!’ He made points about my life being so much more carefree, and he thought that I was actually the ideal son his parents always wanted. He told me he wished he could be straight mad times, which I didn’t really understand at the time. But now, as I’ve matured a great deal from a 18-year-old to a 26-year-old, and been a witness to how much of a big deal sexuality is in the entertainment world, I can really feel the pain and anxiety he must have been going through. I salute Frank and hope Norman is now living as the same way Mr. Ocean does. FREE.
Maylay elaborates on working with Frank…
Frank’s mother speaks out…
Def Jam’s president issues a public statement…
Dream Hampton and various journalists weigh in on this historical “event”…
All after the jump…
Complex: As you guys were writing together, were there ever any discussions over the use of genders in the songs? On “Forrest Gump” he sings to a guy. And this week he blogged about his first love being a man. Did you know his music would reflect that?
Maylay: First, I just want to say that I don’t want to speak about anything involving his sexuality preferences or that aspect of it, just because in this process we’ve become very close on a friendship level. I believe the reason I got involved so early and wanted to stick with it is a belief in his artistry. I feel like he’s the new hybrid of what an MC used to be in the ‘80s or ‘90s. He’s the true storyteller.
I don’t think anyone during any given point during the creative process knew what was happening, because the thing that’s so brilliant about what Frank does is, like on “Forrest Gump,” when he’s singing maybe from a female perspective or whatever, it’s a story, it’s a world that he created.
It’s not necessarily his personal—like something that he’s experiencing. Maybe it is and it’s a metaphor the way he did it, but I’m just saying once you heard the record you could tell he’s so good at creating these entire worlds from some of the songs. That being said, I don’t think at any point anyone has ever questioned where his intentions were and I think that’s why his songs connect so well.
Def Jam’s president also made a public statement on Frank’s “coming out”
“Yesterday was an important day for all of us. Frank Ocean is an amazing artist and a more amazing man. The courage he displayed in his beautiful and eloquent letter was touching on many levels. Frank broke down a wall that should never have been built. The overwhelming show of support from his peers was awesome and inspiring. Island Def Jam is so proud to stand beside Frank Ocean – the artist and man – now and always.” –Joie Manda. President of Def Jam Records
From around the Internets, Frank Supporters speak out:
- Frank Ocean’s Mother Supports Her Son
- Dream Hampton’s Touching Words
- Russell Simmons Shows His Support
- NY Times’ Jon Caramonica Weighs In: Frank Ocean ‘Creating His Own Gravity’
- Complex’s Brad Wete: What Does Frank Ocean Coming Out Mean For Him And For Black Music?
- The Well Versed’s Andreas Hales: Frank Ocean Is Not Singing Songs, Just To Sing The Songs
- VIBE’s Tracy Garraud Gives Her Opinion As a Strong Bisexual Black Woman and NYC Journalist
- Necole Bitchie Writer Jasfly: To Be Perfectly Honest, Frank…
Bonus: Pharrell Calls Frank The “Black James Taylor” [Interview by Mikey Fresh] (from 2011)
Related:
Independence Day: Frank Ocean Confirms Bisexuality With a Heartfelt Letter
Frank Ocean Serenades at Coachella 2012 Debut (Full Video)
Revisiting Frank Ocean’s “Forrest Gump” Coachella Debut: “Running ‘Round My Mind, Boy”
Tyler Causes Fan Frenzy During Frank Ocean’s Coachella Set (Video)

July 6th, 2012 at 7:10 pm
I wonder if now that he’s “spoken” Frank Ocean will be given that “everything he says is deep & powerful” treatment…
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king Reply:
July 6th, 2012 at 8:53 pm
lmao
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Rhyme & Reason Reply:
July 7th, 2012 at 2:30 am
About a month an a half ago during the middle of the afternoon a three year old little girl, while walking with a family member, was shot during a shootout between to cars speeding thru the cross sections of Maplewood Ave and Popular St…
She survived.
One evening, in the primetime hours, An out and often seen in drag dude named Travis (whom I was also incarcerate with in the same dorm) approached his also gay ‘best friend” with a group of his other friends an proceeded to argue with his best friend over a mutual love interest whom was already involved with his best friend. The argument turned into a scuffle an in self defense Travis’s best friend stabs him.
He did not survive.
I can give you a long list of those that didn’t make it thru these REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES but I won’t I’ll spare you.
They seem to always forget the ugly realities of life.
Your family an friends will be cheered for being “Ni–erlovers” and you’ll be the talk and catch phrase of the day, sitcoms, a few t-shirts, reality shows in hopes to catch you queening out, shallow summits on why your the catch phrase of th day, Maybe you’ll get an appearance from Kevin Powell an Dyson doin his I know a Biggie verse too schtick, guest spots a the token homosexual, and then on to the
Where Are They Now Shows. Hey its cool, can’t say it’s original but it’s cool.
Back to you Bob!
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July 6th, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Frank’s birth mother? was he adopted or something???
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July 7th, 2012 at 12:48 am
You guys are going SUPER HARD with the Frank Ocean post aren’t you? I think we get it. Frank Ocean loved a man, people are happy about it. Fin.
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Miss Info Reply:
July 7th, 2012 at 3:28 am
I personally think this is a very key moment in hip hop/ r&b music history. I can appreciate that it makes some hetero men and conservatives unconfortable. But it’s not like we’re ignoring other hip hop related news in order to cover it. Both things can happen at the same time. So you can skip the posts that make you feel uncomfortable. The issue is still new so I think it’ll continue to warrant coverage for now.
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SmokinAces Reply:
July 7th, 2012 at 9:23 am
I understand that you feel this is a key moment for hip hop. And maybe it’s just the sheer amount of think pieces and posts over the entire blogsphere and sites that has got me fatigued with this situation already. It’s not about being uncomfortable because I’m a heterosexual man (which is somewhat of a copout being used against people who don’t want to be bashed in the head with this a million times. And I’m not “conservative”.)
In my opinion, the overkill of posts about Frank Ocean’s SEXUALITY takes away from what everyone should be focusing on. The one thing that really matters: THE MUSIC. I keep seeing people say “what does him being gay/bi/whatever have to do with the music?” But now, is his music the focus? Is every review when the album comes out going to focus on the music OR spend more time on this new revelation?
These are just my thoughts. Didn’t expect this to be this long lol. But I figured I’d be thorough in explaining why I feel all this is a bit much for something that tbh shouldn’t really matter. Again, I’m not some homophobe or just some homosexual man who gets the heebies when I hear about gay men.
But honestly Info, what do you see the effect of this being? Do more you see more closeted hip hop or R&B artists coming out based on this?
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SmokinAces Reply:
July 7th, 2012 at 9:43 am
EDIT “Again, I’m not some homophobe or just some *heterosexual* man who gets the heebies when I hear about gay men.” LOL, Of course…
allenxchi Reply:
July 7th, 2012 at 5:08 pm
No doubt this is a big deal for the hip-hop/r&b community. But it’s not as big as ‘New Music’ which is the primary reason I log on to this website. I’m tired if seeing this Frank Ocean coming out story as the 1st, 2nd & 3rd post… Then the ‘New Music’ comes? No!!! ”New Music’ first!!! Everything else after. Cause after all, what do we have if we have no ‘New Music’?
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